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<\/a>From what exactly do those health care professionals gain strength who are taking care of dying people? Among other things this was one of the questions that Dr. Heged\u0171s was examining in cooperation with\u00a0the members of\u00a0her research group. According to their research results those people who are persistent enough and stay in this field, all have special personality traits: they are more flexible, they have a so called sense of coherence (coordination, harmony), they can cope with difficult situations more easily and they generally have a positive personality. It helps a lot if they receive a positive reinforcement from the patients and relatives, this strengthens their combat strategy. Dr. Heged\u0171s also examined what helps ameliorating\u00a0the communication between physicians\/health care professionals and dying patients the most. On the basis of her findings, instead of lectures, smaller training courses and conversations are more helpful.<\/p>\nThe third research that can be read in the book entitled \u201cDoes good death exist?\u201d is based on the diaries written by mourning people. As Dr. Heged\u0171s explained, writing the emotions down in a diary helps in the process of mourning, she often recommends this to her clients. The analysis of the diaries collected during several years clearly shows that the certain stages of the mourning process is very similar for different people, independent of their age and gender. Many people write down in the diaries that urging the mourners is nowadays very typical: he\/she should stop mourning as soon as possible. Dr. Heged\u0171s emphasizes that here is a lack of empathy and patience surrounding the mourners after one or two months, even if the process of mourning is a lot longer.<\/p>\n
As Dr. Heged\u0171s explained, even if the question of death is more and more becoming a priority issue due to the extension of the expected life expectancy, essentially it is still considered as a taboo in\u00a0our\u00a0current society. People do not talk about it with their family members, and patients having a serious illness die at hospitals and at care homes for the elderly. Generations grow up without ever seeing a person dying, they cannot mourn as they lost the rites supporting the mourning process. Dr. Heged\u0171s highlighted that unpreparedness and\u00a0buck passing\u00a0reinforce the fear of death of the current society.<\/p>\n